Cures for Sexual Disturbance, Performance Anxiety-
Anxiety Provoked by Sexual Worries, Fears or Uncertainty
One of the main causes of anxiety and depression is disturbed and unbalanced sexual energy
Learn to control your sexual energy
Sexuality is a direct method of practising Love. Sexuality in its true sense is divine. It’s proof of Love. If you are thinking of a person and getting turned on it means that person is also getting turned on by you. Loving a person means saying yes to that person, bowing to the deepest part of their being. Yes to fulfilling their needs, and yes to their desires and fantasies.
No Love= No erection
If there are any problems getting turned on it most likely means that you are with the totally wrong partner. Both partners need to be open for giving and receiving love. Giving and receiving are two equal skills like ying and yang. If one person is too stingy or if one person can't absorb the others love then there will be problems. So when it comes to sex, instead of being superficial it's important to start thinking about Love in life and relationships. Otherwise sex can't be satisfying.
Sexual root causes of anxiety and depression
Sexuality is a big part of a person. Men and woman think about it all the time. It’s a big energy in a person that wants to find satisfaction and an outlet. It’s a good thing, but sometimes if the flow of energy gets disturbed then it can manifest in all kinds of problems such as anxiety and depression.
Any shock experience in your childhood may have caused a disturbance in your sexuality and relationships. This can be anything from sexual abuse, to a strange or unnatural sexual encounter at a young age, or even being made to feel guilty for having natural sexual feelings.
It is also possible to inherit ill attitudes towards sexuality from your parents, culture or religion. Attitudes like this can cause a lot of psychological damage. The most damaging belief is that sex is a sin. This belief is linked with guilt and punishment. Sex and any type of physical love or affection is actually proof of Love on the way home to God. It's an essential part of learning to Love. Men and woman are made to Love.
Healthy relationships with your parents create the foundation toward having healthy adult relationships. Love from parents and how they interact with you forms a substantial part of your sexual personality. This includes how you relate to yourself and others as a male man or a female woman. Any problems with your parents can effect your relationships.
Love will heal any sexual problems or trauma from your past that you may have. The first thing to do is to accept whatever is running in your life at the moment. Then actively learn to love and dissolve your problems in Love by Loving your problems. Be strong. Let Love take care of your problems.
Sex and spirituality
One reason that spiritual people have been running away from sexuality is that you can loose all your energy through ejaculation. With men it can take days to recover physically and mentally. Loosing your energy like this constantly all the time unnecessarily doesn’t help a person suffering from anxiety and depression. That’s why in yoga people are sometimes advised to be moderate and only have sex at night. Ancient Toaists and Tantrics believe that a man ages in proportion to how many times he ejaculates in his lifetime.
Certain techniques make it possible for both men and women to have sex and also have a full orgasm without any ejaculation. Instead of loosing your energy, an internal implosive ejaculation/orgasm occurs, which transmutes the sexual potential, sublimating it throughout your entire body. The energy of this technique makes the body youthful and helps develop the mind, awareness and spirituality.
This technique is performed by mastering the PC (Pubococcygeal) muscles, which are the ones used for stopping the flow of urine. The goal especially for a man is to be able to use these PC muscles effectively at the point of climax for a full body orgasm to occur. To practice you need to be able to stop and start the flow of urine at least 70 times whilst urinating in order to strengthen these muscles.
For someone with anxiety it’s important to build up vitality and energy rather than loose it all. Instead of loosing this powerful energy it can be used for health, love, spirituality and overcoming anxiety. It also helps dissolve any type of sexual disturbance or trauma.
