Saying Yes in Family Relationships
Importance of Saying Yes in family relationships
I would like to share my experience of saying YES or NO. Do you have a healthy relationship with others such as your family? What is your status of saying yes? Saying yes may be a form of psychotherapy for bad family relationships.
For instance children constantly are told, “No, No, No”. Children ask for something and their parents just say No without any explanation. Then the children get really get hurt and do not understand why the parents are saying no. Saying yes more often in family relationships may bring more smiles and happiness.
Saying Yes is the path of Loving. Why hurt somebody or cut of the flow of love by saying NO unnecessarily, when you can say YES and make someone Happy? The more you are saying Yes, the love flows. The more you say No, the more you brake the flow of Love and communication. For instance if you start saying Yes to your children, they may also return the Love by saying Yes to your requests. Harmony and mutual understanding may occur, instead of a conflict of ego.
There was one problem child in my family that I had look after. All the parents ever did was say “No!” to that child and they never had any time for her. When I was looking after her, she kept on saying, “can I do this, can I do that?” Even though it was a hassle I would say Yes. She would push me to the limit by asking stuff like, “can we go back and stroke those cats?”. I just said saying Yes. She was testing me and was trying to find the point where I would tell her off and say no, but I didn't. I just let her do what she wanted whilst protecting her against anything dangerous or harmful. Just somebody saying Yes to her once in a while was all she needed to be happy. In the end she fell in love with me and said, “I Love you”. Saying Yes to her helped heal her and remove a lot of blocks. Saying yes is a form of psychotherapy for bad family relationships. After someone saying Yes to her there was an improvement in her behavior.
In some rare instances a No might be necessary, if the request violates any loving boundaries of Love. If that is the case then the absolute reason must be explained clearly so the person understands. Generally to Love means saying Yes. When you are projecting your love onto other, you are giving them a complete Yes. Yes to their healing and Yes to their soul.