Child Depression Studies

Anxiety and depression studies- development in children.

Physical, sexual, verbal, emotional or domestic abuse may be a root cause of a child’s anxiety disorder or depression. Some families are dysfunctional. You may have grown up in a family that didn’t interact with you well on a social or intimate level. This is based on personal research and studies into anxiety and depression.

• You may not have been able to go to your parents for help, support and encouragement or to feel safe. There may not have been any closeness such as talking about feelings or hugging.
• Your parents may have abused you- physically, emotionally or verbally. There may have been lots of struggle, hostility, frustration, awkwardness, arguing and moaning in your family environment. Your parents may have been drug addicts- not talking to you.
• Social development may not have been encouraged by your parents. Due to drug addictions they may live in their own world and be culturally isolated, and even spend their days in separate rooms. Parents may also be overprotective whereby everything you do is interfered with.
• Parents with egos can hit their children as a source of emotional relief. There is absolutely no excuse or justification for hitting children. If you have ever hit a child then you need go and apologise to them for all the times you have ever hurt them. Only ego wants to punish.
• Emotional, verbal and domestic abuse includes constant criticism. No matter what you do you are always in the wrong. You can't ever do anything right. You get moaned at for what you do and moaned at for what you don't do. Other types of verbal abuse is telling their children that they look ugly, that they are abnormal or fat. The message is, “I don't Love you.”

Young children and babies are naturally disposed to look up to, idol and learn from their parents as rolemodels. You inherit their fears and take on their behaviours, even if your parents are maladjusted.

Children are always anxious when they are in constant anticipation and fear of what their parents are going to do or say. Whatever happens the children are in a double bind, a no win situation. Whatever they do they can’t win. This is a major cause for many psychological disorders such as anxiety and depression.

Research shows that anxiety is caused when the behaviour toward a child is inconsistent. You don’t know how the parents are going to behave. Your body was always on guard, and the mind is always prepared to defend against any type of child abuse. Occasionally they may have been nice to you but then horrid again. Parents may also try to possess their children and make unnecessary restrictions, such as coming in from play early before all their friends.

Your parents anxiety may be imposed onto you as a form of child abuse. Some parents fear the world and see everybody out to get them. They see other people as more powerful than themselves, and their children as less powerful and stupid. These parents inhibit their child’s development, because as the child grows up they can only be themselves outside the house. They live two different lives.

Any child with problems like this at home is going to go to school and underperform. Problems at school, tests, dyslexia. The persons negative self image is going to be enforced and the child may believe that he or she is worthless. That child may develop serious problems with other kids and teachers due to the abuse. Other people will live up to their low expectations of themselves. Other kids will bully them. Child depression forms. As that child grows up there is a large risk that he or she will turn to drugs to block out the pain, or even in worst situations attempt suicide.

Although this sounds terrible it is actually wonderful news
Learn to Love and forgive your parents.

This may be a beautiful lesson for that child. The child with anxiety who experienced any domestic or child abuse may grow up to become a strong loving partner, and one of the best parents around.

Some people believe that you choose your parents. Now just stop and imagine for a second, that this is true. You chose your parents because they could offer you a unique experience whereby you can grow strong and develop lots of Love and happiness. That soul wanted to understand human suffering in order to be someone who can heal and help people. Or on the other hand that soul could have chosen it's parents because it really wanted to help them out with their negative situation. That soul may have even caused all the anxiety in that family during a previous life and is now paying for the karma, and hopefully putting a final end to it

You don’t need to believe in reincarnation to use this way of thinking. It just helps you to stop blaming your parents and take responsibility for your life. It helps you realise that all this negative experience is actually a blessing in disguise on your way to happiness

Forgiving your parents doesn’t mean accepting their behaviour. It means to stop blaming and to start loving. Accept that they probably had bad parents themselves. Acknowledge that they are only doing the best that they know how. They were once scared little vulnerable children themselves.

Don’t depend on your parents for anything, such as emotional or financial support. Get out of their space and living environment. If you’re a young person, as soon as you turn 16 get a job and get out. Start your own successful life up. If they are paying for your finances or college then it means that they own you. After you have taken responsibility for your life any interaction with your parents is done in a controlled way at your terms.

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