Relationships with Parents
Developing healthy boundaries in relationships with parents
My parents have been one the biggest challenges in my life so far. Our relationship has not been easy.
Instead of your parents visiting you and telling you what to do or how to live your life... and instead of you visiting them to be partially ignored or made to feel unwanted or invading... you can both meet as friends and maintain your boundaries. I once had to rule never visit my parents, and since I live a healthy distance away from them they rarely visit me. Instead I offer to go out with them occasionally. Such as meeting them for lunch. This also means offering to pay for it, so you are actually giving something. To meet somewhere or to go somewhere requires both parties to make an effort.
I think it is important to solve any problems you may have with your parents to be able to move forward in life. It is important to dissolve anything that is stopping you from loving them fully. You may need to work on dissolving any resentment, hurt, blame or any type of retaliation or revenge. Everything needs to solved in Love. It is important not to reject anybody, including your parents.
