Completeness Technique for Anxiety
With generalized anxiety a person may perceive or experience major problems pressing on them, which they worry about. You might have up to 4 different problems pressing on you from different directions. This technique is to identify your problems as layers of thoughts and feelings, and then imagine what it would be like to remove those layers.
Just for a few minutes imagine that your life is complete in every way. For example if you have money problems, just imagine that you do not have any money problems- it has been resolved and you are complete. If you have a bad job, imagine being free from that job or having a nourishing peaceful job. You are complete. If there is something you want, then imagine you have that in your life making it complete. Do this and keep on going until you get to the stage where you no longer have a need to do or change ANYTHING about yourself or your life.
A generalized anxiety person is always thinking, "I should do this, I should do that; I should be this, I should be that". Therefore the person does not know how to relax and enjoy the peace, the perfection and the completeness of the present moment.
Imagine there is nothing you need or could possibly do to make anything any better than what it is right now. Since you are complete you have no need to control or change anything in your life or yourself. When you have reached that state of completeness you can then perceive true peace.
When you come back to your natural state of completeness using this technique, you discover that you do not really have any problems in life and there is nothing to control.
Each layer of thinking you have created, has its outer equivalent in the physical world. What ever you attract in your life as part of your circumstances and problems is being attracted by your thinking. If you want to change your life you have to change your thoughts first. Whatever you are thinking on grows. If you are experiencing completeness then that is what is going to grow in your life. Know what it feels like to be complete and free from problems.
Completeness is the absence of problem thinking and the need to control
Freedom from problems = freedom from suffering. Problems = problem thinking. No problem thinking = no problems. Completeness thoughts = completeness and success in life.
People with generalized anxiety have very high ideals and standards of themselves and their lives. They are perfectionists. They place a high amount of pressure on themselves to meet ideal standards. Instead of being happy in the moment, they believe they have to change in some way or to achieve some goal in order to feel complete and happy- and in doing so they push their happiness into the future instead of enjoying it in the present moment.
In the mind of the generalized anxiety person the present moment is nothing more than a disaster and they create a need to feel very uncomfortable and disturbed by what is going on in their lives. They do not give themselves permission to be happy.
Generalized anxiety people believe that they are prisoners of their own lives. They believe their lives and circumstances are completely out of their control, so they spend most of the time freaking out. Whatever you try to control- controls you. Generalized anxiety is a resistance to what is. Whatever you resist persists.
Generalized anxiety is characterized by non-acceptance of yourself and life. It means to reject and resist life. Although your ideals for yourself and life are valid, there is no need to try and control your life by putting unnecessary pressure on yourself. Your goals will take care of themselves once you have affirmed them and let them go.
In reality the present moment is perfect. In order to overcome generalized anxiety sometimes you just need to be able to completely let go and come back to your natural state of completeness- even if it is just for 5 minutes in a day whereby you can absorb that peace.