Christian Love - God's Love
Learning to love- techniques for Christian love
When I was around 13 years old, I had what might be considered a conversation with God. It was only for a few minutes. Crazy as it may sound, I actually prayed to God for a really hard life! To be the character I wanted to be- it was impossible. However my heart knew that God could make impossible things possible. To be the character I wanted to be, I would have to experience a really tough life and experience the darkness of this planet.
I knew that the price to pay would involve great suffering. Was I madman to pray such a thing, or was God/Jesus having a conversation with my soul? Did I forget that my life up until then had already been torturing, dark and painful? What was I doing praying for a difficult life? Was I crazy? Was it a big mistake? Was it really necessary?
From the bottom of my heart and soul I wanted to become someone who can help, heal, support and uplift hundreds or even thousands of people, to love them, free them, make people really happy from the bottom of their hearts and souls, to solve their problems. Even just by my mere presence, or by listening to my voice and words. First I would need life experience, to understand the drama, darkness and pain of this world. Either I pray for this; or I can lead a normal, average, fairly happy, but mundane and potentially boring life. However I chose to have a difficult life.
I am still coming out from that difficulty and darkness now, and researching on God and Jesus. This is after experiencing all the illusions, delusions, mistakes, fears, hurt, abuses, anxieties, depression, loneliness, temptations of life and separation from God- to really understand the Maya (the veil of illusion) that is playing on the world and keeps us in darkness. In the deepest darkness that my soul found itself in, I realised that it was all about love. Love was all I ever needed and love is all I missed, and I reached out to God for his love and help. I discovered that love is the only real substance needed to make my life happy and meaningful- the only substance missing for ALL of us here on earth. The question left was, how to Love? How to filter the real love and truth from the chaff of spiritual psychosis, illusion, ignorance and misunderstandings in the world- especially to do with religion and Christianity.
We may complain about our life and how difficult and negative it can be, however we forgot to remember that this is something we chose to go through. The soul wants to grow. Everyone's business on this planet is love. No matter how much of a bad person or a sinner someone may be, their souls purpose for being here is to learn to love. Love is the sole decision making force that determines our business here on earth. So you can always ask yourself in difficult situations, what is my soul learning from this? What lessons of love does this experience offer me? What kind of love am I missing and searching for right now? People can chose to live a life of suffering to become a great soul or to help dissolve the darkness of this planet- to help integrate love into society and create a better environment for us all. But was it really necessary for me to go through that? Surely not. But it was a deal with God.
My spiritual research on love began as I starting reading the new testament of the holy bible and it was clear to me, what Jesus wanted from us- what he was suggesting God's commandments are. Jesus was saying that the most important commandment is Love. In the book of Mathew, Jesus on being asked what is the most important commandment of their religious tradition, Jesus replied by saying something like, "All is one- God is one. The greatest commandment is, 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength'. This is the first and greatest commandment of the present tradition. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbour as yourself.’" He said all the law and the prophets hang on these two commandments. So in other words it is all about love. Learning how to love, and learning how to love God. This also implies that loving others is also part and the same as loving God. Jesus blatantly is saying, loving others is equal to loving God.
So I starting thinking about what is means to love others and love God. It was difficult as first because I honestly had no idea what love means? Is it a real word? So I did my best to start loving others and loving God, and amazing things started happening. The more I started loving others- the more the world started loving me, the more loving reactions came my way. Love I figured meant, to have a positive mental, emotional and spiritual regard of gentleness, kindness, positive energy, patience, faithfulness, and essentially oneness with others- helping and supporting others- helping the needs of others- bowing to the soul of others. I would do visualization techniques of expanding light from my aura to fill the whole room and touch everybody with a loving presence- love meaning to touch people's hearts- to make people feel the opposite of fear and pain- to make people happy- love as a purifier to wash out hurt, loneliness, conflict, selfishness, hate, ego, separation, negativity and negative intent.
For instance how to touch people with your love? How to touch people like Jesus does, bringing silent flowing tears? After a session of Kriya Yoga and generating a high vibration, with that type of vibration you can just imagine puting your arms around someone who needs love and holding them. With the high vibrations especially from you heart you can make someone feel an overwhelming, nourishing, healing, gentle flow of love that can bring silent tears.
So after researching on love, I was walking with a friend of mine, a Christian. I asked him how to love like Jesus tells us to do, in the book of Mathew? How is it possible to Love God in such a way- with all your mind, heart and strength- and how is it possible to love others like your self? He was completely shocked that I had been reading the bible and asked such a question, and we became friends. He said it takes practice. He was the son of a vicar. He lived next to his church on top of a mountain/cliff. To visit I had to walk up and around a big hill, through a green and then past and around the church and then through several levels of grave yards to reach the house. It was actually very peaceful and I enjoyed walking through there. This person had prayed to God to send him a spiritual friend, and it was clear that God had sent me. How to love, was the foundation and topic of our friendship. We were working on a media project at school and I went to the vicarage for the first time to record a radio show.
The family were very very loving- in contrast to my family which was the complete opposite. A counsellor paraphrased the image he got about my house and family from speaking to me. Like it is enveloped in a cloud of darkness, and that is what is was like. This family however had a very loving and respectful relationship, and on a piece of paper he even listed his family members and wrote down all the reasons why he loved them. Jesus's presence was certainly there.
Techniques like Kriya Yoga can help one achieve the goals of love. Even in religions and spiritual traditions or cultures such as India there can be an absence of love among people. Many people bow and pranam to God, Jesus, the Guru or the statue, but rarely bow to each other- saluting the divine in each other. The Indian word, "Namaste" used for greeting people means, "I salute the divine in you". However not many understand and practice its true meaning. Jesus loved India because of the great devotion people have to God. India is probably one of the most devotional countries to God. But the contradiction is that God is not only in the statue, he is in all of us. Although in India people love God, they do not always tend to treat each other very well, and God is in each of us. You do not tend to find people loving and hugging often, especially in public.
People can spend their lives as great mediators, but very few know how to really love, how give or receive love. For example some woman have difficulty receiving love, such as accepting gifts and kindness from anybody such as men, and they do not like the company of other woman as they feel they too complicated. So they are just comfortable around men, because men are more simple and down to earth. When they love and accept themselves as female beings and learn how to receive and enjoy love, then they can be at peace and comfortable around other females and accept love from others.
A lot of spiritual people bow to God, Jesus, Baba, the Guru or other deities. But have you ever thought about bowing to the feet of your parter, your friends and family, or even your enemies? It is a great experience if you have not done this. God is equally in all people. How can you bow to God but then neglect your partner and friends?
I spent some time with a very loving family who live in Bangalore and practice Kriya Yoga, and we drove around and fed some poor people. They are a living example of a loving family and they have a beautiful young child who is very happy. It was a learning experience to see how the child is really absorbing the love generated from the parents and their practice of Kriya Yoga. She is enjoying the result of her parents combined love and austerities. I have never seen such as spiritual child before. They are very loving and sharing, When they eat, they even share the same plate and cup of tea as a family :) and they also practise bowing to the feet and hugging even in public. I believe hugging should be a standard protocol in society, especially among friends and family members.
This also includes loving sexuality among partners. In Christianity we also see loving families and partners because to a certain degree they understand love, but they generally have trouble fully loving people who are outside of their immediate family and church. This could be because some are under the impression that everybody else is going to hell. Therefore they may have a low regard toward other people, almost to the extent of regarding them as less human and less loveable. But it is possible to extend love not only to your own family, but to the whole world by taking care of the needy people of this world. There is often a problem with sexually in spirituality. People are under the impression that it should be excluded, or that it is a sin. Spirituality includes loving and satisfying sexuality. The spiritual meaning of oral sex dispels the taboo and misconception that sexuality is bad or a sin, in an avadute way.
It is also especially important to love our parents and realise that we came here to love our parents. Our parents souls are close to our connection to God, especially your Mother. When I was first born they put me in my fathers arms and I looked into his eyes and he cried, with silent tears. I have never heard of him crying before. So when I think about this it helps me to love my parents and realise that I also came here to love them, and that applies to everybody. So developing love in ourselves, partners, friendships and extended family we learn to change and uplift the worlds vibration and make it a better place for all- as a preparation for eternal life in God.
